Happy Friday Morning, Oppo

"ttyymmnn" (ttyymmnn) 01/26/2018 at 08:42 • Filed to: None

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Have you checked your Facebook this morning? Here’s what Sean Parker, one of the creators of Facebook, has to say about it.

“When Facebook was getting going, I had these people who would come up to me and they would say, ‘I’m not on social media.’ And I would say, ‘OK. You know, you will be.’ And then they would say, ‘No, no, no. I value my real-life interactions. I value the moment. I value presence. I value intimacy.’ And I would say, ... ‘We’ll get you eventually.’”

“I don’t know if I really understood the consequences of what I was saying, because [of] the unintended consequences of a network when it grows to a billion or 2 billion people and ... it literally changes your relationship with society, with each other ... It probably interferes with productivity in weird ways. God only knows what it’s doing to our children’s brains.”

“The thought process that went into building these applications, Facebook being the first of them, ... was all about: ‘How do we consume as much of your time and conscious attention as possible?’”

“And that means that we need to sort of give you a little dopamine hit every once in a while, because someone liked or commented on a photo or a post or whatever. And that’s going to get you to contribute more content, and that’s going to get you ... more likes and comments.”

“It’s a social-validation feedback loop ... exactly the kind of thing that a hacker like myself would come up with, because you’re exploiting a vulnerability in human psychology.”

“The inventors, creators — it’s me, it’s Mark [Zuckerberg], it’s Kevin Systrom on Instagram, it’s all of these people — understood this consciously. And we did it anyway.” ( !!!error: Indecipherable SUB-paragraph formatting!!! )

CB > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 08:50

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This comment being made for stars and attention.

ttyymmnn > CB 01/26/2018 at 08:51

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Thank you. That makes me feel important, and wanted, validates my opinions, and gives my life purpose.

vondon302 > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 08:53

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They haven’t got me yet.

Besides after Oppo and you tube I don’t have much free time.

:-)

WilliamsSW > CB 01/26/2018 at 09:05

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I gave you a star in hopes of getting a star in return

CB > WilliamsSW 01/26/2018 at 09:05

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Today is that day, my friend.

Future next gen S2000 owner > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:07

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Oppo works the same way. Have a star.

E90M3 > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:08

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While I’ve still got my facebook, I haven’t actively used it since July or August 2015. It was inactive for all of 2016. Oppo is about the only social media I use these days. All of my friends have my phone number, what do I really need facebook for anyways.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:08

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Happy Friday... one day closer to Monday!!!

Nibby > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:10

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actually one of the reasons I like Poppy is her social media criticisms are spot on. People use it to paint these false realities of their life and show off how happy they think they are or try to impress others. They value artificial numbers like “likes” that don’t really mean anything.

MonkeePuzzle > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:17

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eh, as someone who lives far from my family, it’s easily the greatest thing!

CalzoneGolem > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:20

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Here’s some validation of your existence.

ttyymmnn > WilliamsSW 01/26/2018 at 09:28

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Back at ya. You are validated.

ttyymmnn > Future next gen S2000 owner 01/26/2018 at 09:29

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It absolutely does. I only take a little solace in the hopes that it wasn’t engineered to control my life.

ttyymmnn > E90M3 01/26/2018 at 09:30

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Oppo is the only social media I take part in. I have no Facebook, no Instagram (well, I have an account so I can keep track of what my kids are posting), and I do not Twit.

WilliamsSW > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:31

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And promoted. My day is complete.

ttyymmnn > MonkeePuzzle 01/26/2018 at 09:31

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It’s like any other tool. It’s all how you use it. For families and people who wish to keep in touch, it’s great. But understanding that it was engineered to suck you in and keep you might help those who are addicted to it.

ttyymmnn > CalzoneGolem 01/26/2018 at 09:31

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Thank you. I feel better for five minutes now.

WilliamsSW > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:32

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It was - it just wasn’t engineered anywhere near as well as Facebook, Twitter, etc.

ttyymmnn > WilliamsSW 01/26/2018 at 09:33

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I knew I was in trouble when I realized that I found myself looking in the top right corner of the Washington Post for a blue dot.

Eric @ opposite-lock.com > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:36

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Although Oppo gets me a bit with the stars/comments, FB has never really hooked me. I end up there every week or so, sometimes gong months between visits. The main thing that keeps me coming back is clearing that stupid list of likes/comments/posts that don’t have a quick “clear all” (bastards). In fact, I might write a little webdriver script to do that for me (take that, suckers).

Then again, I’m broken. Alcohol attracts most people, while it repels me. Likewise with smoking. Caffeine is in many things, but I’ve avoided it cold turkey with no ill effects multiple times and can consume a large amount randomly without withdrawals. I often forget I have ice cream. Shows that come out at some frequency I might watch a few of in a row then forget about them for weeks or months at a time (didn’t own one, didn’t miss it; wife had to have it). Doctors prescribe strong painkillers and I am dubious of them (generally just deal with most pain), but even when I do take them they are almost the opposite of addictive. It’s like I’m a natural quitter of anything mind-altering.

Could be addicted to my phone and computers in general, though...

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:53

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Yeah, I did. And I saw & responded to birthday wishes from close & distant relatives and from old friends and newer ones. It may be a drug, but it’s not all bad. Even though I know that many of these people only thought to wish me a happy birthday because Facebook reminded them, they did take a moment out of their day to try to brighten mine (and it worked). Granted, I appreciate the words and calls and texts from my closest family & friends, but it all adds up to fill one up, something I really needed yesterday.

Kiltedpadre > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 09:55

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I generally check it after getting to work but before I actually get started on anything. After that and on weekends I typically only look if my wife says something about being surprised I haven’t commented on something she posts.

OPPO on the other hand I check regularly, and go back far enough to make sure I don’t miss anything.

ttyymmnn > Eric @ opposite-lock.com 01/26/2018 at 09:59

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I would hardly say you’re broken. Just because you don’t ascribe to the things that society on the whole does doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. In fact, I would say that being comfortable doing what you do in spite of trends is a sign of being comfortable in your own skin. And there are a lot of people who can’t say that.

ttyymmnn > Kiltedpadre 01/26/2018 at 10:02

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Oppo is my social media. And I fully admit that I get a kick out of seeing replies, I check back to see how many I got on a post, and I feel bad if somebody criticizes something I wrote. It’s human nature, and all of these platforms are designed, perhaps perniciously, to capitalize on that human nature. But, I don’t have Facebook, I’m not on Instagram (except to keep an eye on what my kids post), and I don’t Twit. Oppo takes enough of my time as it is.

smobgirl > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 10:03

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I did. Because I’m temporarily hating my job and doing everything in my power to avoid getting up, getting ready, and going to it. If I didn’t have to finish some work for an employee with the flu I would probably call in sick myself.

ttyymmnn > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com 01/26/2018 at 10:03

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Opioids aren’t bad, either, until you start abusing them. Like any tool, it can be used well, or it can be abused. The thing about Facebook, Instagram, etc is that they were engineered to get you addicted, just like cigarettes.

ttyymmnn > smobgirl 01/26/2018 at 10:04

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Time to look for new work?

smobgirl > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 10:07

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It’s just related to one particular project and I’m exhausted so I’m fixated on it.

I worked my ass off (late nights, no lunch, etc.) this week to prioritize a really tough job because a client needed it ASAP. Now everyone capable of reviewing that project is too busy to look at it...I could have had 3 more days to get it done.

ttyymmnn > smobgirl 01/26/2018 at 10:12

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Well, at least it’s done. Procrastination is insidious. That time you think you have later can disappear very quickly. I try to get my kids to understand the importance of just getting things done. Then they’re off your mind and you can move on to other things.

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 10:34

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I just can’t stop looking at it. It’s a great resource for news and media that I am interested in.

ttyymmnn > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 01/26/2018 at 10:36

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I think you mean fake news.

XJDano > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 10:48

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I’m ok with having deactivated it a few years ago.

I still have a twitter, and IG, but those I keep for local news and IG for family. Our TV is mainly for streaming now anyway.

I did read a story that FB might be scaling back or something.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 11:00

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Can’t argue with that. I’ll be holding off letting my kids have a Facebook account for as long as possible. Giving them a flip phone when they get to the age that they need a phone seems appealing...

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 11:03

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I only read Wapo, huffpo, and bribert.

ttyymmnn > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com 01/26/2018 at 11:30

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I won’t let my kids do FB. As it is, my older boy spends too much time on Instagram. I was just reading an article my wife sent me about phone addiction. One of the things the article recommends is turning off push notifications. I think that’s a great idea. I always had my desktop ping and alert me on the screen whenever I got an email in the background. I just turned it off, and it’s been liberating. I can now concentrate on my work for longer periods of time. It seems silly to just be discovering this, but we become so hooked on the instant notification that we fail to realize that most things can simply wait. Nobody is contacting you to get the launch codes.

TheRealBicycleBuck > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 11:34

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Facebook was the primary way we shared photos with my mom. Now that she’s gone, I’ve logged in about about once a month - usually  when my wife tells me she shared something that she wants me to see.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 11:40

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I’ve turned off most of the alerts from my phone, and I probably need to turn off some more.

And let’s hope no one will be contacting anyone to get the launch codes any time soon (or any time, period).

ttyymmnn > TheRealBicycleBuck 01/26/2018 at 11:42

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My wife sent me an article this morning about phone addiction. One of the things they suggested was turning off push notifications. I think this is a simply yet powerful suggestion. I just turned off email alerts, both notification and sound, and I immediately find myself working better on my writing, putting together longer sessions of focused writing. I did leave text notifications on, though, since it’s the way my kids contact me.

TheRealBicycleBuck > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 11:48

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There are only a few push notifications I allow and I usually miss them because I keep the sound turned off, my phone doesn’t vibrate hard enough for me feel it in my pocket, and I keep it out of the line of sight when it’s on my desk. My new watch will alert me of any push notifications and it’s harder to ignore since it’s vibrating on my wrist. The quick solution is to put it in airplane mode, breaking the bluetooth connection to the phone. The longer-term solution is to set up rules for which notifications are allowed through. I’ve been feeling lazy lately, so you can guess which solution I’m using right now.

LongbowMkII > ttyymmnn 01/26/2018 at 12:00

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i’d delete mine if i didnt use messenger so much

ttyymmnn > LongbowMkII 01/26/2018 at 12:04

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But can you ever truly delete a Facebook account?